Hi, I'm Laura. I'm 29, single and just moved to Stockholm from the UK. I spend my days doing UX, marketing and other assorted web stuff. I like cooking, rollercoasters, dinosaurs, and pretty much anything organised nicely into colour order or a good list. I also run 1796 Foods where I am trying to eat all kinds of foods that I must 'try before I die'.
I can guarantee more than 60% of girls and women would rather be called stunning rather than sexy, beautiful rather than hot, and gorgeous rather than a turn on.
I don’t agree here. Personally I like to be called sexy, or a turn on, assuming it’s by a person and in a situation where that is appropriate. I think these can all be great compliments.
Placing a definitive higher value on those that explicitly reference your looks (stunning/beautiful/gorgeous) rather than the effect you have on another person (sexy/hot/turn on) without specifying when these words are said actually seems a little strange to me. I feel like these all have their place and which words are preferable to you depends massively on the situation, as well as your own personal tastes.
If I’ve just spent two hours getting ready for a fancy party and I’m wearing a posh dress and have my hair done up then yes, I’m probably going to want to hear that I look beautiful or stunning. But if I’m in bed with a guy then I sure as hell would rather hear how sexy and what a turn on I am.
Now I know that this is all my own personal preference, and I wouldn’t say anything otherwise and assume I was speaking on behalf of all women because honestly, that is the kind of bullshit we have to deal with from men already and we don’t need to do it to ourselves. So perhaps in these situations we should simply write what our own feelings are without feeling the need to quantify them by assuming the majority also feel the same?
we should talk more about how ‘macaroni’ in 18th century england was used to mean ‘fashionable’ because a bunch of rich young dudes went to italy and really liked the stuff there
language is weird
humans are weird
WELL THAT’S ONE FUCKING LIFELONG MYSTERY SOLVED